what's that blue marks on your face?

I just received a phone call from a friend (we can call her Mrs. A) this afternoon. Mrs. A cried over the phone, with her heart-breaking, soul-tearing voice, she told me her husband just hit her.

It wasn't a shocking news. It happened before and it will happen again.

My response was "Hum.. Uh huh.. And? What do you want me to do?". And then there was silence... And more sobs..

I've never got to know Mr. A well enough. Not that I want to. And I guess he never likes me either. After all, I'm Rina the bad influence.

But what I know about him is that, he has always been abusive, at least during their whole relationship (they've been together for 3 years, just got married few months ago). I remember how Mrs. A was impressed by his dominant charm, his know-exactly-what-to-do attitude, and his good looks. He's got it all. Except one: mental health.

The first time Mrs. A called me to tell about the abuse was years ago. She cried over the phone, shocked. She had never guessed a jealousy would cost a bruise on her face (and she has a very beautiful face). I was furious at that time, I rushed to meet her, to comfort her, and to give her the best I could to help (including giving her advise to arrange him got beaten up to near death). She just sat there at the cafe, sobbing, didn't know what to do next because she loved him madly (ironically yea i think she's 'mad'). And then there went the next phase.. SHE BLAMED HERSELF.
Surprising, don't you think? My jaw dropped. My anger soon targeted a different person: her. I could not believe why she had to blame herself. She got beaten up because Mr. A checked her phone and saw text messages from her ex, and there was nothing romantic nor sexual in those messages. And she blamed herself for not considering Mr. A's feeling.

And so they made peace. He apologised. Apology accepted (by her, obviously).

And after that we had this distance between us, she was not allowed to hang out with me (and lately never at all), because apparently she told him that I was angry and told her to leave him. He intoxicated her brain with strange logics. My friends and I have been trying hard to get her back to the real world. But I guess a sadist is just exactly what a masochist needs.

And the beating continues, until this afternoon when she called. With any kind of reason available. If there isn't any, he'll make one.

So what I told her this evening is that, she could go to her parents house, call a lawyer, file for divorce. And I will not be surprised if she will just wait for him at home while medicating her wounds. Cook him good food, welcome him home with the hopeless smile and lost puppy eyes. He will apologise, and the cycle goes..

If any of you who reads this is a woman in the same situation.. Please, I BEG YOU, use your brain, and have a self pride. So what if he threatens to leave you, or take the kids away with him. We have laws (even that it's unreliable). You have friends and family. And we even have NGOs for that, you know. Do the words 'human rights' ring a bell?

Your church/mosque/temple/whate

ver will not stop him from beating you up...

A baseball bat does.

And a bunch of guys from Priok.

I'm not advising you to kill somebody here.

A near death experience is good enough.

Fuck forgiveness.

Lawsuit is MUCH BETTER

Even better if you can throw him into jail so he can indulge the anal experience from his fellow prisoners.

Don't give him lubricants, he might enjoy it too much.